Adult Sex Toy Education 101

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Adult toys are becoming the most searched category on Google and as you may understand, the logic and education behind these products and how to properly use them can be overwhelming.  We have put together a guide to help you understand adult sex toys to improve your sexual wellness. 

Vibrator

A vibrator is probably the most sought-after and known sex toy known to man.  Vibrators come in handy for most women and provide a convenient, yet fun pleasure in some of the best places. In fact, some women have their very first orgasm using a vibrator. Yes, believe it! Many women are hard to please and it does not mean their partner is lacking in any area, their body just requires a special type of stimulation and vibrators, especially those with clitoral stimulation has the ability to provide that ever-lasting orgasm. Vibrators comes in all shapes and sizes and a woman will pretty much have to test out which type will give them the best feel.  The most popular vibrator is called a "Rabbit" and provides both vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Please note: previously vibrators were and honestly, still are made with subpar materials; therefore, customers must seek phthalate free, body-safe medical-grade silicone and stainless steel when choosing a vibrator or any other sex toy. For those who are against penetration, they have clitoral vibrators that only stimulate your "clit" to provide an orgasm. We carry a plethora of vibrators, even those that use temperature play to arouse the body. 

Dildo

Dildos do not vibrate! This is a cool way to distinguish between a dildo and vibrator. Dildos are normally shaped like a penis and provides pleasure for self-masturbation and partner play. Pictured above is a double dildo by Fun Factory called Share XL which can be used for same sex (wearable with strap-on) or heterosexual play.  Double dildos give both anal and vaginal pleasure simultaneously for the ultimate sexual fantasy.  Even though most people prefer a realistic looking penis, they come in all shapes and sizes including glass. Recently, a company developed a crafty dildo kit called, "Clone-A-Willy" which includes a kit to clone your man's penis for later use.  It's like a kinky-fuckery couples sex toy project and it also includes a vibrator.  Dildos can also be used with strap-ons with your partner and is available is many sizes including 14 inches. Why do women tend to buy larger, realistic dildos? Simple, most men are not gifted in that area and the dildo allows the woman to feel next level satisfaction. Just add some lube, preferably water-based, and began to penetrate your vaginal or anus and work your way up to a monster cock.

Ben Wa/Kegel Balls

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Ben Wa Balls or Kegel Balls are probably the most kept secret to individualized pleasure. Not to mention, Fifty Shades of Grey places major emphasis on the pleasure balls in the book and movie, so the desire is now over-the-top. Kegel balls are placed inside of your vagina and the woman grips or keeps the balls inside by performing kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are performed by tightening and then releasing your kegel muscles or pubococcygeus muscle (PC) frequently throughout the day. Kegel exercises have the ability to strengthen the vaginal muscles, have better organisms, and more control during sex. Women must understand to purchase the lightest balls first as a novice and work your way up to advanced or heavy weighted balls. The balls come in stainless steel or silicone and are weighted. 

Ben Wa Balls are inserted inside the vagina and stimulates the vagina with every move. Ben Wa Balls are great for exercising, dancing, or a laying around the house. Kegel/Ben Wa Balls provide great stimulation to a very sensitive area allowing discreet pleasure to the woman. Ben Wa Balls are inserted with lubricant and kept in by performing kegel exercises. Please wear these at home using silicone or lighter balls until you are comfortable with "gripping" the balls and keeping them in. Ben Wa Balls are mostly glass or stainless steel and should be used for advanced play only. Beginners can end up very disappointed starting with metal or glass balls and not fully experiencing the greatness of this type of sex toy. We have several Ben Wa/Kegel Balls on our website from beginner (Fun Factory shown above) to advanced (Fifty Shades Inner Goddess). Fun fact: If your set contains a "loaded" and empty ball, insert the empty ball first as far back as you can, then follow with the "loaded" ball. 

Bullets

When size doesn't matter, you pick up a bullet and enjoy some direct clitoral stimulation. Bullets can be used during foreplay, solo, and in conjunction with other vibrators. Place the bullet vertical on the "clit" while you touch yourself or you can place it horizontally in-between the labia and feel the vibration! Bullets are now made so discretely they look like lipsticks, makeup cases, necklaces and are even hidden in vibrating panties such as Screaming O Vibrating Panty Set. Some women use a bullet to insert into the vagina, but not fully, just the tip to provide a different stimulation. 

Cock Ring

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A cock ring can add a much needed boost to your adult play time. Cock rings are designed to be placed on the penis to restrict the blood flow, allowing the man to stay harder, longer. Cock rings also come with vibrators (as shown above) which adds double pleasure as the clitoris is stimulated during penetration. To use a cock ring, make sure the penis is flaccid or semi-erect. Make sure to use a stretchy or silicone cock ring and never use without lubricant. Again place on the cock ring at the base around the shaft and use for no more than 20 minutes. If your man starts to feel some numbness, take of the cock ring and work to build up to the 20 mins. Please do not keep this device on for longer than 20 minutes. The cock ring can be removed once the penis is flaccid and be careful not to grab the pubic hair...ouch!

Water-based Lubricant

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Water-based lubricant can be used with all sex toys and is the preferred lubricant to use and keep your toys in good condition. Water-based lubricants are slippery, easy to clean, and is most cases, will need to be reapplied. Since water is the main ingredient, this type of lubricant is normally soft and soothing on your skin. We offer several water-based lubricants that are body-safe and provides great pleasure during adult play time. We have several options at

Silicone-based lubricant

Uranus Wet Platinum Silicone-based Lubricant | House of Pleasures

 Silicone-based lubricants last longer and are made of silicone and oxygen atoms. Silicone-based lubricants are very thick as well as hypoallergenic and works well for those with allergies. Silicone-based lubricants should NEVER be used with silicone toys! Silicone toys and silicone-based lubricants do not mesh well together and your toys (the rubber) will break down over time. Many ask what makes silicone-based lubricants so great? Water Play! Silicone-based is thick and ready to help create those great moments in the shower, pool or tub unlike water-based. We offer several options on House of Pleasures